Jennifer Lopez is getting candid about her personal life in a new interview with Vogue, where she discusses everything from married life with Ben Affleck to co-parenting and why she believes her relationships in the past ultimately failed. The mother of two, who married Ben back in July, admits to the magazine that she felt as if she was persistently putting other people’s needs before her own, subsequently leading to an unhealthy love life.
“I just didn’t understand what it was to care for myself, to not put somebody else’s feelings and needs,” she said. Jennifer proceeded by adding that it became a constant pattern in her relationships, which she described as a pretzel, that never ended until she began to ask herself why she never felt fulfilled with the person she was with. “At a certain point you go, ‘Wait, this doesn’t feel good. Why am I never happy? Finally I was just like, It’s time to figure me out.’”
.@Jlo has always led with her heart, but newly wed and empowered as never before, she’s achieved something hard won: true happiness. https://t.co/UUYeW4IgmB pic.twitter.com/G4mBHR7h5w
— Vogue Magazine (@voguemagazine) November 8, 2022
Furthermore, JLo opened up on what tempted her to give her romance with Ben another chance following her split from Alex Rodriguez. But the New Yorker stresses that her feelings for her now-husband never subsided because she had always deemed him to have been quite a “special person” in her life. “I always felt like there was a real love there, a true love there. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”
“The two of us, we lost each other and found each other. Not to discredit anything in between that happened, because all those things were real too. All we’ve ever wanted was to kind of come to a place of peace in our lives where we really felt that type of love that you feel when you’re very young and wonder if you can have that again.”
Love that Jennifer Lopez is now sharing in Ben Affleck’s Dunkin Donuts rituals. They are the cutest. pic.twitter.com/U5u83Lu8ya
— Courtney Howard (@Lulamaybelle) October 31, 2022
In the same interview, the “Get Right” singer also praised Ben’s ex-wife Jennifer Garner, whom JLo calls “an amazing co-parent” who works “really well together” with her former partner in raising their three children. “They’re teens. But it’s going really well so far. What I hope to cultivate with our family is that his kids have a new ally in me and my kids have a new ally in him.”
She continued, “Someone who really loves and cares about them but can have a different perspective and help me see things that I can’t see with my kids because I’m so emotionally tied up.”