A man is facing issues with his wife after she reportedly asked him to give her half of his annual Christmas bonus.
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On Reddit, an anonymous man revealed that his wife is upset with him because he refused to give her his $1000 Christmas bonus. He claims that his wife receives roughly the same amount from her parents during the holidays, so they keep their funds separate. Her parents, however, did not give her the usual amount this holiday season, so she asked him to share the bonus because he earned it from a new promotion.
“When I told my wife this, she said that we should split the money so that we both have $700 to spend. I refused because our agreement was that we would keep our Christmas money separate and spend it how we choose. There is usually a small difference ($100 or $200) between what her parents give her and what I receive as a bonus but we’ve never split the money 50/50 so there’s no reason to start now only when it benefits her.”
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The anonymous user continued to say that he refused the offer because there was one point in his career where he only earned a $100 bonus while his wife received her $1000 Christmas gift from her parents. However, she didn’t split the money with him and he didn’t expect her to. He says since Christmas, they have been arguing about the bonus and it is causing tension in their home.
“All of my income (other than the bonus) goes into a joint account which she has access to. I do not keep any of this money just for myself. She doesn’t work and has no other income. We plan our monthly budgets together and she does most of the shopping for our family. We do have money budgeted each month for non-necessities but it’s usually spent on things for our family (eg: going out for dinner) not just 1 person. Anything for our kids comes out of the budget, not our Christmas money. The Christmas money is our “for fun” money that is outside of the budget and we can each spend how we wish on ourselves. For examples, past purchases include jewellery and purses for her, new bike for me.”
The 40-year-old man asked Reddit users for advice and some were split on the issue. One user explained, ” This sucks, but you guys had an agreement AND when the tables were turned she didn’t split it with you. So I’m going with NTA. I will say, I personally think you should give her something, (maybe not half) because she’s your wife and you love her. In general it might be time to rethink the precedent you set previously. $100 for the whole year is tough. Maybe you don’t split it if you both get similar amounts but maybe you implement a 70/30 or 60/40 rule. So that the other person always get something.”
Other users had a similar stance since they didn’t know the couple’s extensive situation when it comes to income.
“She literally does work though? For you? Or do you not compensate her for childcare, cleaning, shopping, etc? And no, “paying the bills” doesn’t count, otherwise live-in nannies wouldn’t get a salary. She deserves financial compensation, and not by you “taking the family out to dinner,” an actual set amount of money that is for her, for all her hard work.”