Wayne Brady is speaking for the first time since he came out as pansexual. The actor had a conversation with ET’s Nischelle Turner and explained how he feels his announcement will now help out his dating life.
“It would be hard for me to truly put myself 100 percent into a relationship when there’s this nagging doubt that I have not explored that piece of me, or even given voice to having that option,” Brady explained. “… It doesn’t mean that it’s ever going to manifest itself in a relationship with a man, or a relationship with this person. I don’t know, but at least being able to voice that, so that, if I go into a relationship, whomever I’m in a relationship with knows me 100 percent. “I think that’s the piece that was missing, that I couldn’t verbalize, ’cause I couldn’t lock on to it. I always felt this much dishonest, and if I was being dishonest, then there’s no way to truly give yourself 100 percent,” he continued. “Now I feel differently about that ’cause I went, ‘Oh, well now you know. So if you were to be involved with me, you know Wayne in totality.’ I’m not hiding anything now, so now I can approach you in a way that I never have.”
Brady went on to explain how since coming out he now believes he will be able to love whoever he chooses. “At the end of the day for me that just means that I am free to voice the option,” he said. “Here’s the thing: it may never happen… I’m not saying that I am going to be in a relationship with another man. I’m saying it is very possible for me to be attracted to the man because of the person. I can be attracted to this beautiful woman because of the person. But then again, that may be a non-binary person that might go, ‘Oh, I’m attracted to you. I’m attracted to this trans person.'”
“The best part is, now that I’ve said this out loud, I don’t have to worry,” Brady continued. “I could show up at a red carpet. I could be at Denny’s for all you know, I’m not ducking anybody… because it is what it is, and I’m free to do that.”
Even though he has come out he continue to say that he’s not ready to take on the dating scene just yet.
“The best thing that I could do for myself right now and to do for someone else is to not be in a relationship, is to just breathe,” he said. “There are things that I want to do… I just want to work right now. I want to continue to go to therapy, so that when I am ready to either pursue or be pursued, whomever that maybe, my aim is to be my best self.”
The actor says he feels so much better since coming out and wishes everyone who feels like him would do the same.
“Every single person should be able to be whatever your truth is. You should be able to feel like you walk in that daily, because that’s the only way to really be free. I think that for myself,” he said. “… It was a big deal, but it’s not really a big, big deal, because it really is just a piece of this that I was all honest about… This is just an extension of that journey, trying to get to a place after turning 50 where… [I realized] how cool it is to just wake up and go, ‘It is what it is,’ and nobody can say anything.”